A time to shut up? Or a time to be loud?

March 31st, 2022 by

I heard some great advice recently. So great, it’s serendipitously come into my life twice now in as many weeks, so I count it as a sign to share it with you. The first time I heard it was in the “We Can Do Hard Things Podcast”, the second was a meme from Hoda Kotb on Instagram. 

Here it is- 

“The most awesome people in our lives don’t make us want to be them. They make us want to be us.”- Glennon Doyle

“To inspire people, don’t show them your super powers. Show them theirs.” – Hoda Kotb 

It inspired me to shut up. 

But am I supposed to? Aren’t I also supposed to find my voice, share my experiences, be loud and proud about standing up for women?

I’m not sure. I’m guessing, like most life questions, the answer is, annoyingly…I’m supposed to do both. You’re supposed to do both. 

I had my first parent/teacher conferences a few weeks ago and the teacher (unsurprisingly) told me that my son is “really great at sharing in class.” As someone who always had a “talks too much” comment on their report card, I was ready for this feedback. 

Apple. Tree.

But then the teacher said that one of the most powerful ways he can be a leader is by modeling good listening. 

I’ve thought about that feedback a lot over the past few weeks, and I began to apply it to my own life. Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is share our story. And sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is allow someone else to share theirs. 

Being a good listener = empowering others to step into their own voices. And it’s only once we’re allowing someone else’s voice to rise do we get enough voices rising to make changes. 

Yes, I think there’s space for Miss Market to be loud about how we can all purposefully shift just 1% of our spending towards women-led businesses and create incredible change for women entrepreneurs.

Yes, I think there’s space for Miss Market to be loud about educating and empowering women to understand their economic force both individually and collectively. 

But maybe the most powerful thing we can do is create space for others to tell their story. For women business leaders to share their challenges and successes. For women to openly talk about money and finances. For women to feel empowered. 

So, what’s your story? 

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